I am a licenced adoption counsellor having trained with Barnados. Our understanding of the lasting impact that adoption has upon all those who are involved has changed dramatically over recent years. For those whose children have been adopted, we now have an understanding that adoption not only affects the birth mother, but the birth father and the wider birth family too. For those who are adopted and for adoptive parents there may be many conflicting emotions to deal with, and no two people will have the same response.
Whether you are affected by a recent adoption or one that took place many years ago the emotions that you feel are valid and can be thought about within the safe space that counselling provides.